WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

I was watching the Dzigbordi Show, a social talk show this afternoon and she had with her three gentlemen discussing the age old question of WHY MEN CHEAT? 

The first speaker, a single guy stressed his personal opinion that no man wants to risk having just one woman in his life because that puts her in complete control over his emotions, this he explained justified the need for guys to keep at least two girlfriends at a time.

The second male speaker was of the opinion that love depreciates after marriage, he further expatiated that pressure of living together could generate friction and disagreements between couples and this would ultimately leads to unfaithfulness on the side of he man.

Her third guest speaker also had a different point of view, he argued that faithfulness was dependent on the strength of the marriage commitment between both parties involved, and the existing post nuptial plans. He explained that before marriage, couples should draw up short and long term post nuptial plans, of  what they intend to achieve after wedlock as individuals and together as a couple. Intending couples must also discuss their marital expectations, and agree on a commitment level, this would help both parties stay focused and committed to the union even in the face of trials.

Quite an interesting conversation but the truth be told there is no one true answer to the question Why do men cheat? For different individuals have different explanations for their acts of infidelity towards their partners. 

Here are two pointers on fidelity I think you should know. 

·         You can’t force your partner to be faithful to you. He/she must truly want it as bad as you do.

·         That you are faithfully committed in your relationship does not automatically imply that your partner also is.

·         Infidelity is the major reason behind many failed marriages within and outside the country.

However after all said and done, I quite agree with the third speaker that intending couples should discuss their individual expectations before getting married. It better prepares them towards the life commitment of understanding each other, living and working together as a couple.

If as a man or woman you value your privacy, the need to come and go as you please, and to talk to whomever you choose, then you should make it clear to your partner from the word go and save him/her the heartache of trying to tame you.  

No couple should allow love depreciate after wedlock, though it could waiver under the physical and financial pressure of living together, having kids and building the home, however both parties must work at remaining  truly passionate about each other. 

Having date nights, vacationing together and keeping it fresh in the bedroom you know what I mean, are some ways in which couples can keep the fire burning in the marriage. Marriage should not be regarded as a prison sentence rather it should be a mutual lifelong decision between two parties sharing the same core values and principles of protecting, cherishing and loving each other in good and rough times.