Yes I CAN

" I must confess that I didn't think I would do well. Never again will I say a task is impossible without first trying". 

That was the honest confession of my 18 yr old brother after wining first place in Javelin an athletic sport he had never undertaken before. You can imagine his disbelief after a 30mins practice session  and competing afterwards in his school's sports field events translated into him walking off with the gold medal.

Just to think that I had always preached to him about the benefits of the I CAN attitude, but does he listen to me, oh no! it took Javelin to bring him to that ground breaking realization.

Consequently I must add that the place of sports should not be neglected in our primary and secondary schools. Asides from the physical health benefits of engaging in out door activities, these young lads also gain life lessons while participating in sports competition. As they appreciate the joy of winning, and deal with the disappointment of losing (when your best is just not good enough), gain an understanding of the concept of team work and the see the results of hard work and conscientious effort towards achieving a goal (gold medal in this case).

Good job Francis we are proud of your achievements................................JCOG

Love is in the air

Someone sent this I had to share

HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE! !!!!

1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.

2. Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.

Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.

3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.

6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a prefect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.

7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.

10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse yours spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

11. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

12. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

MISS YOU

What do you miss the most?

I miss the silly conversations, just talking about absolutely nothing.

I miss the smiles that come unexpectedly in awkward places.

I miss the tempo of juggling hearts

I miss the excitement, my heart beating faster when I see you.

I miss being nosy always wanting to know your business

I miss the feeling, that superficial feeling of knowing that someone, somewhere out there is thinking of me.

I miss you.

Shall he find faith on the earth

Nevertheless when the son of man commeth, shall he find faith on the earth? Luke 18:8b

Can all the recent advancements in technology take the place of Jehovah Rapha- The Lord our Healer

Can all the riches or material resources  of this world replace the role of Jehovah Jireh- The Lord our Provider in our lives.

Can the services of an extensive security network take the place of a Jehovah Nissi-The Lord our Banner.

Can national economic stability and good governance replace the essence of Jehovah Rohi- The Lord our Shepherd 

Can the righteousness of man be compared to that of Jehovah Tsidkenu- The Lord our righteousness 

Who or what can contend with the Peace of Jehovah Shalom, nothing.

When the son of man commeth, shall he find faith on the earth?

Dining with a long spoon

I guess most of us have heard the saying "he who sups with the devil should have a long spoon". That idiom was my reality last week.

You see I took something that never truly belonged to me. No! Don't get me wrong am not a thief, it wasn't stolen. It was voluntarily given to me yes, but for all the wrong reasons. 

You how we say Osho free dey purge, it's kind of something close to that. When you accept a gift with strings attached, thats dinner with the devil and when the "generous gifter" pulls the strings and starts placing sinister demands in return for the gift then it's time to leave the dining table.

So I recently started my Errand Management Company ERS and received a cash gift from someone I respect a lot. This appreciable amount of money (000,000) would go a long way in offsetting some capital expenditures for ERS however there were strings attached.

I began to gather from snippets of conversations what the person wanted back in return for his/her generosity, something I just could not give. Comments like "a laborer deserves his wages" and "one good turn deserves another" were soon being bandied around. At that point I was done, done with the bullshit (pardon my language).

So I quickly withdrew that said amount from my account wrapped it in an envelope and sneaked it inside a bag belonging to the  gifter. I then sent him/her a phone message admitting that I didn't feel comfortable accepting the money but thanks for everything.

How did he feel? I really don't care all that matters is my salvation and piece of mind and anything that threatens that I say "back to sender".......JCOG

An alternative model to saying No

I find it quite difficult to say No. Juggling the roles of being a wife, mother, sister and business owner, compromises have to made here and there.

Many a times saying No as a mother to my kids frees me up to say Yes as a wife to my partner.

Other times saying No to a business engagement enables me to be there for my children.

Still the disappointment that comes across makes "No" a difficult word in my book. So the ever creative yours truly  has developed an alternative model to saying No.

Rather than deny a request I'll rather set a condition which must be fulfilled for the request to be granted.

Say my daughter wanted me to take her to the park where I'll rather be indoors, my typical reply would be after you've read your books. Why? Well knowing the short attention span of my girl, by the time she is done with her books she would have forgotten her request. 

Note that one must be a good judge of character to apply this principle.

Just last week a male colleague of mine "finally summoned up the courage to ask me to spend the night with him" end quote. Since am not into adultery and knowing his financial status, I quite calmly told him that he would have to organize a trip outside Nigeria to have his way with me, you know America, UK or Dubai.

Did it work? Well I have not heard from him since then so your guess is as good as mine cheers...........JCOG 

Temptation

Had an interesting experience this morning. I was at Ajah Market Lekki environ, had to shop for foodstuffs for the house. While shopping I ran out of funds, and walked over to an ATM machine nearby and patiently joined the queue. While waiting, i entertained myself with my phone and was quite engrossed in a game when i overheard increased chatter from behind. I looked back to observe, possibly with the intention of joining the conversation and i noticed three guys standing around with a rather petite lady in their midst.

My Heels don't lie

Do not get me wrong I love my hubby and all, but do you see the pair of killer heels he got me for my birthday.

He seems to ignorant to the passing of time. Years ago this was like, no sweat but seriously as I grow younger these heels look scarier and I wear them less and less often.

I dare not tell him but if you see him walking past you, hola and give him a short lecture on age appropriate gifts. Yeah the tall, dark handsome dude walking by, his mine...Don't hate, Peace.

Kill it, Bury it, and Amen.

Have you found yourself longing for things you do not truly need?
Caught up in the sea of longings but knowing that those feelings have no true substance.
When you have what you need but long for want what you do not have.


When the tables turn and is seems like you desperately want it more than another. Kill it.


When it feels like you could do and say anything to get this stuff but deep inside you know it ain't good for you. Kill it.

Addicted

Addicted to the way you make me feel.

10:32pm and I still can't fall asleep waiting for you to call or text me. 

Holding on to my phone so addicted to risk missing your call.

I tune my radio listening to the midnight blues cause those love songs remind me of you. 

Tingling all over thinking of you, missing you, wishing you were here beside me.

Would i seem desperate if I called just to hear your voice. Will you be mad that I woke you up just to say I love you.

What have you done to me to feed this addiction?

Could it be the passion l hear in your voice when you speak to me that draws me to you.

Or your generosity in giving me the finer things of life that locks me down to you.

If you make me a promise, am keeping mine....................Addicted.

Till death do us part

He is dead, a life so young, so vibrant, gone just like that.

Who?

That guy called " till death do us part" just died.

How? 

Well, he became evidently sick since you stopped bothering to offer any excuses to returning home late from work.

He had hoped for recovery after the family vacation to Dubai, but nothing really changed like you had promised.

He got worse hearing you call her name in your sleep and worse as you withdrew from me and your children.

He died just as I found out that the bi.... is carrying your baby.

JEALOUS

What does it mean to be jealous?


Waking up a few hours earlier to spy through my partner's phone while he or she is fast asleep.

Calling him or her out over every text message or phone call from any member of the opposite sex.

33 years later

I noticed that as I become older, I no longer pay particular attention to my birthday. It stands as a reminder to my not so youthful disposition. So today was not so different. Woke up feeling a little low, hubby had called earlier but my kids had forgotten. They seemed quite wrapped up in their separate worlds.

Paranoid

I was paranoid, could this be true I wondered. It was 4.30am quite early in the morning, hadn't been able to sleep.
Tried to fall asleep a few times but woke up soon afterwards. My heart is beating so fast, I get up and walk over to the toilet, I need to clear my head.
I return back to bed, still can't sleep. After all these years I wonder why I let myself get worked up over this?

Is he Justified?

Is he justified, has he been warning you about your poor cooking skills or consistently hinting at your poor performance in bedmatics, is your recent weight gain slowly turning him off, or has he told you a million times to quit with the nagging but you just won't listen.

Is your partner justified to cheat?